NON-ATTACHMENT

 

“There are, as well, ways to describe the manifestation of two therapeutic ideals: no excess tension in the body and a neutral reaction to symbolic associations and mental representations of trauma.” Strengthening My Recovery: Meditations for Adult Children of Alcoholics/Dysfunctional Families

 

In detachment lies the wisdom of uncertainty . . . in the wisdom of uncertainty lies the freedom from our past, from the known, which is the prison of past conditioning. And in our willingness to step into the unknown, the field of all possibilities, we surrender ourselves to the creative mind that orchestrates the dance of the universe.

To be in flow  is to know the changeless:
to know the changeless is to have insight.
Things in harmony with life  remain;
 people, places and or things that are forced are not sustainable.

Trust the process. I am open to allowing what needs to happen. I trust there is a greater power than myself at work in this situation. I relax and let go of  fear, an unconscious need to be in control of myself, the situation and you.

TRUST THE PROCESS

 

Always we hope
someone else has the answer,
some other place will be better,
some other time,
it will all turn out.

This is it.

No one else has the answer,
no other place will be better,
and it has already turned out.

At the center of your being,
you have the answer:
you know who you are and
you know what you want.

There is no need to run outside
for better seeing,
nor to peer from a window.
Rather abide at the center of your being:
for the more you leave it,
the less you learn.

Search your heart and see
the way to do is to be.

Abide at the center of your being.

~Lao Tzu

 

LOVE & HAPPINESS

Ten thousand flowers in spring, the moon in autumn,
a cool breeze in summer, snow in winter.
If your mind isn’t clouded by unnecessary things,
this is the best season of your life.

You do not need to leave your room. Remain sitting at your table and listen. Do not even listen, simply wait, be quiet, still and solitary.

The world will freely offer itself to you to be unmasked, it has no choice, it will roll in ecstasy at your feet.

~ Franz Kafka

CONSCIOUSLY LIVING CONSCIOUSLY

 

 

Stress and Anxiety: The Root of all Disease

Making the time to destress is easy when you now how…and  difficult if you  struggle with  switching  off because you can’t let go of overthinking…

Mental creation always precedes physical creation. Before a building is physically constructed, there’s a blueprint.

Your thoughts are the blueprint of the life you are building one day at a time. When you learn to channel your thinking — both consciously and subconsciously — you create the conditions that make the achievement of your goals inevitable.

You are the designer of your destiny. Awaken your hero archetype to claim your individual leadership style.

Be Well Balanced:

Meditation brings into alignment  the psyche  and soul by anchoring our personal integrity wit calmness, confidence and commitment to doing our best in  in all encounters, endeavours, and enterprises.

Be in Community:

Conscious communication is being seen, heard and valued with in the our community.  We can’t photoshop our persona, ergo I want to be the best version of me, all the time…no perfect…rigid and negatively controlling. I choose to be non-reactive, tasing and patient, in control and capable but this only happens when I am present. If I drift onto into the future this creates anxiety or I fall back into the past I can become depressed.

The key is to let go of expectations of others and of myself…life is challenging enough without my dips in thriving fuelling insecurity/neediness/not-enoughness etc… toxic temper tantrums hijack others peoples reality and my bitch face is not pretty….

Meditation is a  discipline that eliminates external distraction….  An internal focus. Whatever  I am doing I want to do that task with love, with present moment and then I can do my best…

Clarity: A consistent meditation practice, awakens awareness between our external and internal experience.

With greater balance through meditation we are able to expand our awareness and be more present in the moment to whatever is happening in our lives.

HEALING SOUNDS

 

 

 

“If you want to find the secrets of the universe, think in terms of energy, frequency and vibration“

— Nikola Tesla —

Music at a frequency of 432Hz can reduce stress, boost resilience, and restore optimal  wellbeing, equanimity, and equipoise.

Physical and mental agitation,  is  unsettling….disconection creates a felt sense of separation from self and others…too much   outer stimulus and noise and not enough down-time dedicated  to self care,  prevents us from achieving  harmony. Sound has a way of helping us get to the source of this inner peace we all desire.

I recommend listening to Denise Leicester’s “Soul Medicine” vibrational remedies to go deeper into your current mediation, yoga etc practices.

Soul Medicine is the heartfelt work of yogi and sound healer Denise Leicester . Her collaboration with Tom Simenauer is intended to promote a next generation science based music medium, one which is easily used in the everyday to promote greater wellbeing and cellular balance simply through listening.

Go to:  https://www.soulmedicine.me/about to order/download Love  Tracks (£20) a playlist designed to shift  energy blocks/inner feeling states from fear to self-compassionate courage.

FIGHT & FLIGHT.

Fight Or Flight

A fear of flying creates something of a problem when your job requires frequent international travel. Here, Vogue jewellery editor Carol Woolton attempts to overcome her misgivings once and for all.

Helmut Newton

Is it my paranoia or have there been more plane crashes than usual recently? For someone terrified of turbulence this was playing on my mind as I planned my flight to the Basel watch and jewellery fair this week. You see, I’ve had some scary flights to Basel over the years.

Once a pilot threatened that we were flying straight into the “eye of a storm”, another time a stewardess shouted over the tannoy system: “Sit down, this is a very dangerous flight” and with a thumping heart I imagined the entire British jewellery industry plummeting into the snow-capped Alps where we’d freeze to death before anyone could find us.

Mindful that I could be in for another nerve-racking flight I investigated a new stress-busting tool, which works in tandem with your smartphone. The smooth pebble shaped device called Sensate vibrates on the vagus nerve lying underneath your breast bone, which holds the key to keeping calm as it wends its way from the brain to the gut, controlling the rapid breath, increased heart rate and blood pressure of flight or flight responses.

The weather report at 5am was promising gale force winds over Western waters – I’ve no idea where those are exactly but I wasn’t taking any chances and grabbed the Sensate before heading to Heathrow.

We all know fear of flying is unscientific and illogical, but the conscious mind doesn’t communicate this to the body to prevent it releasing stress hormones. On a flight to New York recently I eavesdropped as the pilot, who’d emerged from the cockpit, was reassuring the terrified woman seated behind me taking her first flight over 30 years. It was going to be choppy for the next couple of hours. “Don’t be frightened it’s just the weather,” his calm voice said, “think of it as a boat bobbing up and down on the water in the wind”. I stopped listening; he’d pinpointed the reason for my nervousness. There are thousands of boats littering the seabed due to adverse weather conditions.

On board the Basel flight I take my aisle seat, having paid extra to move in case I needed a quick getaway, and they start the safety video, which the comedian Ricky Gervais described as “a bit of a downer” during his recent Humanity tour. “If you do go into the side of a mountain at 500 miles an hour,” he quipped, “the brace position does f*** all.”

I plug the Sensate into my phone, and the low-frequency sound waves begin to pulse gently through my chest, with the Forest music that I’d chosen from the app to channel through my earphones, and soon the combination distracts my mind.

When the vagus nerve is activated apparently it puts the brakes on the stress response and I do begin to notice that I am feeling calmer than usual. When the seat belts sign pings on, the plane shakes and rattles, and my exit is blocked by the drinks trolley (always a panicky moment), so I turn up the volume of the music and the vibration intensity on my phone. This small decision makes me imagine that I have some control over my anxiety and immediately I start to relax again.

“Our cross cultural instinct level is so intense,” explains integrated healthcare physician Stefan Chmelik, whose company Bioself Technology have developed Sensate, “But it’s primitive, like that of a 500 million-year-old lizard which goes into flight, fright or freeze mode.

The problem is that the brain stem is powerful, but not smart, and can’t differentiate between real and imagined threats.” Which means the same life or death response is applied for anything – even too many e-mails in your inbox is classed as a physical danger.

I arrive in Basel with a clearer mind and feeling more at ease than I have before, grateful that I didn’t succumb to gin and tonics like the nervous couple sitting in front of me as I glance in my diary at the daunting schedule of back-to-back meetings. My vagal toning may not be over quite yet.