Judgement detox: Whenever we judge, make someone wrong, blame, project, repress anger, hold resentment, and the like, we create an energy blocks.
Inspiring change, raising awareness begins with me…
As you go about your day, you can try to look upon each person you encounter with tolerance and understanding. Even if someone does something to annoy you, you could think about what each person has experienced in their lives and how that has shaped them. You might then remind yourself of the fact that we are all bound by the love of the universe.
Imagining that all of us share the same spirit, are made from the same material, and have experienced struggle helps us hold others in compassion. Frustration with others usually comes from seeing ourselves as being separate.
When we think in this way, we have less patience with the problems and fears that other people experience. When we realize our interconnectedness and the fact that we are not so different from each other after all, however, our sense of understanding for others grows.
We see that by having compassion for others, we also care for ourselves. Holding others in compassion today will allow you to connect to and share the universal spirit that flows through everyone.
If we choose to believe that we are helpless victims and that all is hopeless, less, then the universe will support us in that belief.
Our worst opinions of ourselves will be confirmed. If we choose to believe that we are responsible for our experiences, the good and the so-called bad, then we have the opportunity to outgrow the effects of the past. We can change. We can be free.
We can are allow/accept a situation as it is, that’s all. This “allowing to be” takes you beyond the mind with its resistance patterns that create the positive-negative polarities. It is an essential aspect of forgiveness. Forgiveness of the present is even more important than forgiveness of the past.
Remember that we are not talking about happiness here. For example, when a loved one has just died, or you feel your own death approaching, you cannot be happy. It is impossible. But you can be at peace.
What if it is a situation that I can do something about?
How can I allow it to be and change it at the same time?
Whenever anything negative happens to you, there is a deep lesson concealed within it,although you may not see it at the time. Even a brief illness or an accident can show you what is s real and unreal in your life, what ultimately matters and what doesn’t.
Seen from a higher perspective, conditions are always positive. To be more precise: they are neither positive nor negative. They are as they are.
If you forgive every moment – allow it to be as it is – then there will be no accumulation of resentment that needs to be forgiven at some later time.
There may be sadness and tears, but provided that you have
relinquished resistance, underneath the sadness you will feel a deep serenity, a stillness, a sacred presence.
The road to freedom is through the doorway to forgiveness. We may not know how to forgive, and we may not want to forgive but if we are willing to forgive, we may begin the healing process. It is imperative for our own healing that we release the past and forgive everyone.
Forgiveness means surrendering. We understand our own pain so well. Yet, it is hard for most of us to understand someone s pain who treated us badly. That person we need to forgive was also in pain. And they were only mirroring what we believed about ourselves.
I find that when we really love, accept, and approve of ourselves exactly as we are, everything in life flows. Self-approval and self-acceptance here and now are the keys to positive changes in every area of our lives.
Emotional freedom is actualising self love. Surrendering into stillness. Loving the self, to me, means to never, ever criticising ourselves for anything.
Criticism locks us into the very pattern we are trying to change. Try approving of yourself and see what happens. You’ve been criticizing yourself for years. Has it worked?
“A Course In Miracles calls a miracle a “shift in perception.” When we feel the pain but do not connect with the origin of the pain, when something in our present triggers a past hurt or resentment, it feels as if it is entirely about the present, and the past gets projected onto the present.
Problems that are loaded with past issues make the present feel unmanageable. Energy patterns that store memories can rise to a conscious level, be looked at for what they are, felt and released in what Sigmund Freud called, “making the unconscious conscious.”
Dayton Ph.D., Tian. Daily Affirmations for Forgiving and Moving On (Powerful Inspiration for Personal Change) (p. 370). Health Communications. Kindle Edition.